S9E02: Ask a Sex Therapist: Are My Genitals the Star of the Show?

Mar 10, 2025

This spring, we're answering the most common questions that we receive about s*xuality. A lot of questions revolve around our genitals. How are they supposed to look? How are they supposed to function? What happens if they don't function the way that they're "supposed to function"?

 

In this episode, we challenge three assumptions about our genitals.

1. Your worth as a human being is defined by how your genitals look or function.
2. The thing that lets us know we've had a successful s*xual experience is orgasm.
3. The best way to orgasm is through vaginally penetrative s*x, which typically only leads to male orgasm.

These assumptions generate the orgasm gap, the fact that men orgasm way more than women do. We close the episode by talking about 15 ways that a couple might connect that leads to both partners orgasming.